Trust Again

You believed them and took them at their word. But their word meant nothing. They betrayed you, taking your faith in others and your own judgement with them.

Trust is the lifeblood of strong and healthy relationships. But what happens when you feel you can't trust other people? Without trust in relationships everything becomes doubt, suspicion and pessimism. It's more about when you will be let down, not if you might be let down.

Once bitten, twice shy

When someone, or a series of different people, let you down badly it can feel as if you can never trust again. It's true some people are down-right nasty and should be avoided, but many more only behave badly now and then, leaving a heap of decent people who are worth trusting.

Trust and self-fulfilling prophesies

If you assume that everyone is out to betray you or will inevitably let you down, then you begin to look for signs of this happening. And before you know it, you begin to see what we expect to see…even if those things aren't there!

Imagine you could remove the suspicion filter, and start to see other's behaviour more objectively. You will still spot the nasty characters, but you've opened yourself up to building relationships with all sorts of other, worthy, people.